![]() ![]() That you’re being ignored is not a fun thing to figure out. Whereas “delivered” leaves us in the dark, “read” offers clarity. In this example-and the two others I cited-people having read receipts on would have provided the comfort of certainty we as humans are apt to seek. He had read my text, and he wasn’t going to reply-either that, or something much worse had happened. But my comfort was short-lived that first hour only delayed the inevitable realization that something hadn’t come up. When my then-boyfriend didn't text me back, I spent an hour thinking the best: Something's come up, and he hasn't read my text yet. With “delivered,” we can imagine myriad obstacles that are preventing our well-intentioned loved ones from responding to us: They’ve lost service, their phones have died, they’re shopping for groceries-or otherwise occupied. Oh yeah, and he’d love to hang out.Ī popular argument among read receipt critics is that read receipts rob people of the ability to comfort themselves with best case scenarios. (For the record, she didn’t send any of them.) The next morning, he replied telling her his phone had died so he hadn’t seen her initial message. “When he didn’t reply, I drafted 13 different versions of texts telling him to go f*ck himself,” she says. Last weekend, a different friend of mine texted her partner to see if he wanted to hang out this weekend. There she was, thinking he’d read it, when the truth was the message hadn’t made it to his phone at all. Her international plan was being wonky, and the text never went through. “When he didn’t text me back, I was convinced that the sudden distance had changed his mind about us,” she says. In October, my roommate sent her boyfriend a text message while she was vacationing in Europe. Or whatever they call girlfriends whose boyfriends die. What if he's dead right now? What if that's why he's not responding to me? Are you f*cking kidding me? This motherf*cker isn't even gonna respond? He probably hasn't even read my text yet. Here's a quick timeline of what went through my brain during those 18 or so hours: ![]() I didn't hear from him again until the following afternoon. on a Saturday, and he went straight-up radio silent. After we shot a few angry messages back and forth, he stopped responding to me. Last March, I got into a text-centric argument with my then- boyfriend. Living in a state of abject uncertainty is way worse. Seeing that someone ignored your text sucks. ![]()
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